“Always Accused ME Of Cheating”: 25 Signs Of Infidelity That People Ignored

Love makes us blind to our partner’s faults, even to the point where it’s detrimental to our well-being. People get into relationships expecting to give and receive respect, fidelity and unconditional love. Because they won’t consider cheating on their partner, they don’t think their partner will cheat on them either. But all too often, people tend to fall short of expectations and engage in secret affairs that lead to irreparably hurting their partner.

Recently, a Reddit thread about the red flags of a cheating partner that people overlooked gained traction online. We’ve gathered some of the most heartbreaking signs and shared them in the gallery below.

#1

Always accused ME of cheating even when I had done nothing to make him believe that. He kept constantly telling me how being cheated on was his biggest fear. Ended up cheating on me with multiple girls throughout our relationship.

#2

She had a workout buddy and kept gaining weight.

#3

When she started shaving her pubic hair after leaving it natural for 7 years.

#4

My best friend of 10 years cried on my shoulder, multiple times. In my house. I knew it was about a girl but he didn’t want to give any details, told him I’m always there if he wants to talk. Turns out he and my wife (who was my carer through chronic illness) were making plans to run off together. They’re married now.

#5

I figured it out when my sister-in-law slapped me with a book named “co-dependent no more.” Everyone else knew it, but I was emotionally blind. 28 years of marriage and four kids.

She had multiple partners over our entire marriage, including my best friend.

Divorcing and pulling our lives apart was like trying to separate two phone books with interlocking pages. Had to move out of state to make it happen.

But happen it did – and I’m better for it.

#6

Showering as soon as they got home.

#7

He suddenly treated his phone like it was a newborn baby. Slept with it face-down, brought it to the bathroom, got twitchy if I even glanced at it. One time it buzzed at 2 AM and he mumbled, “It’s just work.” Girl, it was not work.

#8

Her pregnancy.

I’m a woman.

#9

He became extremely cold and argumentative towards me, everything I did would set him off. He threatened to leave multiple times over small things.

#10

I think I knew, and it wasn’t just one thing. Long time spent on the phone, sometimes the whole day. Sleeping in the other room “to get better sleep”. The little smile you see when they check a message, and the speed at which they’re checking them. When you open a door and suddenly the volume of a conversation drops. Or it switches to just typing.

I saw all of it, and I chose to ignore it as I see myself as a jealous person sometimes, and maybe I’m just being paranoid. I thought we had something stronger than that, and at a minimum I figured she would leave me before she no longer cared for me enough to do that in my face.

I saw the signs, chose to ignore them, and I was wrong.

#11

She was sleeping with her phone under her pillow.

#12

She was too loving after coming back from work, and not loving at all any other time. Turns out she would sleep with someone at work and then come back to me….

#13

She packed the lingerie I bought for her on the girls weekend trip.

It was absolutely not the sort of thing you would wear under something else either.

#14

My at the time best friend seemed to go from super awkward and quiet to extremely cocky, and specifically belligerent towards me. My partner at the time was spending a lot of time with him (we were part of the same larger friend group so it never really seemed weird at the time) and it just never added up in my head. I ended up being the one that got shunted out of the larger group despite being the victim.

#15

Started hanging out with long lost friends from high school….i feel so stupid believing that st but that’s what happens when you fully trust someone. But hey, it changed me to a point where I will never trust someone 100%, maybe 98% but never again fully. Lesson learned….even the people that say they love you and sleep right next to you will fk you over if they can.

#16

Their friends got weirdly awkward around me. Turns out, they knew everything.

#17

I think in almost all cases, there are clear indicators of bulls**ery going on.

I could list them, but I don’t think the signs themselves are that important.

Ignoring any specific signs for a second, I think it is important to point out that being treated like s**t and being cheated on go hand-in-hand.

You don’t have to bother Nancy Drew-ing out the possible implications of wearing perfume to go to the gym or the reasons behind a sudden string of late work nights.

If you are paying attention to how the relationship feels and how you are being treated, you can remove yourself from the relationship before actually catching your person doing squat thrusts in the neighbor’s cucumber patch.

With hindsight, you will see that your partner was pulling away long before you caught them. With hindsight, you will see that your partner created distance and was actively disconnecting from you.

You were just too busy trying to get things back to where you thought they should be to notice that their interests were elsewhere and that the person sitting right in front of you didn’t give a s**t anymore.

So, long story short, focus on the sudden disconnection. Focus on the aloofness and their air of not giving a s**t.

Not in the frantic “How do I fix this” kind of way but in the “I don’t like how I am being treated and this needs to change” kind of way.

Then bounce if your feelings aren’t being addressed.

#18

She suddenly became weirdly supportive of me going out with the boys. Like, not just okay with it, excited. I thought she was just being chill. Turns out, she was scheduling my ‘fun nights’ to line up with hers. While I was out drinking she got pounded by her co-worker.

#19

He always wanted to know my location so that I never crossed paths with him and his side piece. His friends started giving me weird looks like they felt sorry for me. They also started to be nicer and more gentle with me instead of teasing or joking. The atmosphere was suddenly serious. He would get calls from unsaved numbers late at night, but he’d brush them off and say he didn’t answer numbers he didn’t recognize. Left his phone on silent or DND and it was always glued to him.

#20

I told him I was itchy after s*x and he got nervous and defensive.

#21

Having to work overnight when you make your own schedule smh 🤦🏻

#22

Never a story about her job that didn’t include this m**********r.

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Same here, kept hearing stories about how nice and thoughtful he is. When I expressed my concerns, she brushed it away saying he is like that with everyone and he is dating someone as well. Ended up cheating a week later

#23

He got so happy when he talked about her. I had a sinking feeling, but I brushed it off as I was being paranoid. Should have trusted my gut.

#24

Oh God, everything. I was so blind and stupid. He talked his way out of everything so casually. Socks in our bed, long blonde hair on my pillows, shampoos that weren’t mine, work schedules, he had an answer for everything. This man was living two completely different lives, one with me [gay] for 8 years, and one with his girlfriend of 2 years. I’ve never in my life have been through the hell that man caused me. POS.

#25

Never let a cheater be forgiven.

My now ex cheated on me once, I forgave.

She cheated again married him.

6 years relationship, in 3 months of long distance relationship, some d**k head helped with her homework and that’s it.

Cheaters will always cheat so yeah never bother forgiving them.

Shanilou Perera

Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.