25 Ways People Reveal Their Pain Without Even Realizing It
Life isn’t easy for everyone, and some people carry unseen scars from their struggles. When someone asked on Reddit, “What’s a sign someone has been through a lot of shit?” users responded with a mix of deep, heartbreaking, and surprisingly insightful answers. Here are some signs that often indicate a person has endured more than their fair share of hardships.
Not all scars are visible, and the strongest people are often those who have faced the most battles. If you recognize yourself in these signs, remember that your experiences have shaped you—but they do not define you. And if you see these traits in someone else, a little kindness can go a long way.
#1
Zero tolerance for drama, b******t and toxic behaviour.
They’re more likely to just walk away from friendships and relationships at the first sign.
#2
People pleasing. Apologising too much. Internalised blame. Not being fazed by terrible things and finds very little to be really shocking. A good listener. Lack of boundaries. A loner. Quiet. Avoids people and crowds. Avoids drama. Doesn’t really care about gossip, small talk or the mundane stuff. Doesn’t have much to do with family.
Sometimes I wish I didn’t know these things.
Edit: Thanks for my biggest up vote and response yet people. I don’t feel so alone today. There are good people in this world. Keep fighting and learning every day. ❤️.
#3
Keeping themself distant from everyone. Not opening up.
#4
They don’t ask for help, because people have let them down a lot.
#5
They are empathetic, kind and generous- because they get it.
#6
Stubbornly independent because they don’t believe they can rely on anyone.
#7
They tend to keep a lot of information about themselves locked up for fear of it being used against them.
#8
In social situations they never ask people about their family. Mostly cuz they don’t want people asking them about theirs. That’s a new one my wife pointed out to me.
#9
We lose it over little things because we aren’t allowed to lose it over big things. Surprisingly reliable during high-stakes chaos but a tiny small thing will send us spiralling for days.
#10
They have the ability to turn to stone at the snap.of a finger. Any past emotions, just gone.
#11
Incredibly self aware, very open about some experiences, make jokes about trauma….
Enough about me! How are you doing?
#12
They appreciate the tiniest things around them. They are super empathetic and kind. But they can also flip like a switch if you push too hard.
#13
They stand up loudly for people who are being treated unfairly. .
#14
They don’t like their birthdays celebrated.
#15
They instantly click with other people who have been through a lot of st before even realising the other person has been through a lot of st
No seriously it’s like a sensor.
#16
They apologize a lot for basically everything.
#17
Being an “Empath “. People who grew up in incredibly abusive households, learn to be hyper aware of Incredibly subtle body language and speech, as a coping mechanism from violently unpredictable Relationships. They are often very in tune with the emotions of those around them.
#18
Extreme self-awareness is often present. Empathy and effort to understand as well.
#19
Their eyes don’t sparkle yet they are the kindest souls to ANYONE and EVERYONE.
#20
An uncanny ability to read past the literal words someone says and hear what they’re really saying, even if they didn’t want to tell you that.
#21
How fast they can flip the switch and not put up with your s**t anymore.
#22
Can’t take a compliment because to them thats the start of manipulation. Also don’t like gifts becuase they come with strings usually and they aren’t prepared to have something else come back at them because they “accepted” the gifts.
Also likely fiercely independant, although you get the ones that go the other way and are too scared to do anything alone.
#23
They’re angry, and resentful. I’m going against the grain here by saying this but as someone who has experienced child abuse and been blamed for it and been misunderstood my entire life, yeah, I’m angry and resentful.
Sorry.
Update: thanks everyone. To those who are going through similar, I feel you, a lot.
#24
Socially distant, not trusting of anyone.
#25
Sarcasm, thick skin, quick wit and dark humor.
Saumya Ratan
Saumya is an explorer of all things beautiful, quirky, and heartwarming. With her knack for art, design, photography, fun trivia, and internet humor, she takes you on a journey through the lighter side of pop culture.
