25 Indicators That Scream A Couple Is Headed For A Breakup

Romantic relationships are a mix of joy and challenge. Once the excitement of the beginning fades, maintaining a strong bond requires effort from both partners. But sometimes, not everyone is up for the task.

Recently, a Reddit user named Dazzling_Leopard4627 sparked a conversation by asking about warning signs that a couple might not last. The responses varied, but common themes emerged, such as sharing social media accounts and engaging in passive-aggressive behaviour. These signs serve as valuable insights into the dynamics of relationships.

#1 Having a “fix-it” baby

#2 When the girl has abandoned her own identity to cater to what he wants

#3 I was hanging out with someone, cooking and she said “Oh, take a video of me stirring this so that boyfriend knows that I’m actually doing what I said I was doing and not out cheating on him.” Or something akin to that. They also bought a house together within 6 months.

#4 One party making a whole f**kton of concessions for the other, and that being unidirectional. One person is compromising, but the other is just taking and taking and getting everything they want with no compromise in return.

Desperate people let themselves get taken advantage of because they’re worried they’ll never find another partner, or they’ll be too old to have kids soon, or whatever. The second someone who isn’t selfish comes along to attract the downtrodden partner, or when the selfish prick hits them or some other such Rubicon crossing, the relationship falls apart like wet tissue paper.

#5 Contempt for the other persons hobbies, job, friends, values, abilities…

#6 When they’re far more concerned about the wedding than the marriage…

#7 Heard a female friend say about her fiancee, “oh he’s my little project.” Lasted just over a year. S.h.o.c.k.i.n.g

#8 His $700 Only Fans monthly bill. Their wedding is in July.

#10 When they consistently put the other one down in front of friends or family

#11 When they take constant little digs at each other in a group setting. They may even claim to be joking, but you can tell they’re not.

#12 When the groom smashes the cake into the brides face.

#13 Point scoring. Keeping track of who won the argument, who spent last weekend with friends and for how long, snippy jabs about those things in front of friends and family. Then when an argument inevitably breaks out, bringing out that mental tally and using it as verbal weapon to ‘win the argument’. Seen it happen in a few couples now. All divorced within 10 years

#14 Reading the AITAH threads and reading all the, “My spouse suggested we open the marriage up to explore [reasons]” posts.

#15 Excessive humble-bragging posts. Almost all the couples I’ve seen who do that on my social media, are now broken up. I can’t help but feel like there’s a correlation.

#16 Controlling the other’s actions. Won’t let them see friends/family, do hobbies or really anything alone and for themselves.

#17 One that I haven’t seen mentioned yet: When the mother, family, or friend(s) dictates the relationship. I understand pointing out legitimate concerns/red flags out of concern. But the amount of jealousy and toxic behavior I come across on reddit of the mother/family/friend intentionally ruining the relationship with the help of the s/o is insane.

#18 When they have vastly different life/family goals. For example, one wants children and the other doesn’t.

#19 Every time they argue, one of them starts talking about divorce.

#20 When they don’t do ANYTHING without the other one there. Get a haircut, visit family, hang with friends etc. ALWAYS together.

#21 When one party starts a fight in order to keep the relationship “interesting” or “spice things up”. While conflicts or arguments are pretty normal, starting up one for the sake of not having a “boring relationship” is bonkers to me.

#22 Not giving each other the benefit of the doubt when a miscommunication or something happens. Quick to just assume the worse or habits.

#23 Passive-aggressive nitpicking

#24 “I have to ask my husband if I can go.”

One party gets mad if the other even so much as looks at another person or even has a celebrity crush or something

Joint Facebook accounts

Every post they make is about how much they’re in love

They only talk about each other or their relationship

One of them has a substance problem

#25 When one of them controls what the other one wears publicly like it’s normal.

Shanilou Perera

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