25 Harsh Truths About Adult Life You Don’t Realize In Your Youth
Approximately seven out of ten Americans believe that young adults of today have it tougher than their parents did. According to a survey by the Pew Research Center, respondents expressed difficulties saving for the future (72%), had concerns about financing college (71%), and were worried about affording homeownership (70%).
To get a better understanding of what adult life entails, Redditor Raeraegoawayy asked users to share their own observations on the “sad realities” of adulthood that they believe would be helpful to be more aware of in our youth.
#1 You can do everything right and it can still go wrong.
#2 That once you live on your own, It cost money every second of your life. Even if you stay in and hide in your bed, The bills are rolling like the counter on a gas station pump.
#3 Everyone is very f*****g dumb.
#4 Life isn’t fair. You can work harder, be better qualified, but still get passed over for promotion. You can be the perfect partner, but they can choose to drop you anytime.
#5 You have to stop eating processed foods.
#6 The stupid s**t you do to your body adds up. Headphones at max volume? Enjoy your tinnitus.
Being a goofball and head banging as hard as you can to Metallica in the 90s? Wake-up with neck pain. Showing off how much you can lift or carry and not lifting with your knees? Have fun with the back spasms after you move too quickly the wrong way. Take it easy on your body.
#7 One sad reality is that life often doesn’t go as planned. Flexibility and resilience become essential skills for navigating adulthood.
#8 Adulting is mostly just being tired and doing laundry.
#9 Life is more about how you react to things and less about what happens to you. Good and bad things will happen in life. What matters is how you react to it.
#10 People at work can be just as, if not more childish than those at school. Some folk just wait for the opportunity to stab you in the back or belittle you publicly.
#11 Being an adult is living with regrets. It’s not only ok to look back and wish you did things different, it’s proof of growth.
#12 Not everything is black and white , most things are shades of grey.
#13 Time hits the FFW button after high school… it feels like January was last month sometimes. Next thing you know is been 10 years.
#14 You’re not guaranteed anything. Not love, not happiness. I think most people grow up taking for granted that these things WILL happen. Reality is a lot more complex. If you’re lucky what most of us do get looks something more like a comfortable compromise. And a lot of us end up going through life with less.
#15 How lonely it feels. I’m 20, so i’m still in the transitioning period of becoming an adult, and sometimes it’s so lonely because this is where everyone’s life starts to go at different paces & in different directions. You start growing as a person & sometimes that means growing apart from friends you thought you’d be with forever.
#16 In my experience, the older you get the less people care. Until finally nobody cares. If you don’t put in the effort to reach out to people, nobody else will.
#17 That in the end, you need to be your own best friend and cheer squad. Only you can lift yourself up out of life’s inevitable potholes.
#18 While you’re growing up, your parents are growing older.
#19 The number of possible life paths you have decreases as you get older. Sometimes it actually is too late to start.
#20 First, it goes by way faster than you think it will.
Old age doesn’t come on gradually. One day you’ll just be like, “Dude, I’m old. How the eff did that happen?”
Second, young people are awesome.
Forget all the stereotypes about self-centered, heartless, entitled youth. Young people have an innate ability to say to themselves, “Well, that didn’t work out. Oh well, let’s do something else.”
For young people, screwing up and trying something else, or doing something and realizing it isn’t for them, is a part of being young. At some point, we lose that when we get older.
Older people tend to wallow in their mistakes and feel like it’s too late to change. They feel trapped in their decisions and obligations.
Working with college students in my 50s, young people have taught me three very important lessons:
- It’s OK to need help.
That’s what friends do. My experience has been that young people can be the most loyal and true friends of all.
- Quit taking life so damn seriously.
There’s something funny about pretty much everything, so pull back, take a deep breath, and laugh.
- It’s OK to change and do something else.
You make a mistake? You’re not dead! Do something else.
So my advice to young people is: respect youth, learn from them, and they’ll respect you back and teach you plenty.
And never lose the qualities I named above.
#21 The advice of “Follow your passion” in careers only goes so far. If your passion happens to align with a lucrative career track, then you’re golden. But if it requires a TON of work to get your passions to make money, then keep them as a hobby. Get a job that you can tolerate to pay the bills, and do what you love for free because you love doing it. I wouldn’t say that data entry is my passion, but it gives me plenty of free time to rescue animals, garden and travel.
#22 You have all the freedom to stay up as late as you want and eat candy for dinner. But you’ll feel horrible if you do.. Also, dishes. So many f*****g dishes all the time.
#23 You can prepare yourself as much as you want, life will always throw you a curve ball. Especially as an adult.
#24 50 years I’m on this planet and I’m sitting here pondering what I can tell you that is a sad reality of being an adult. Nothing really springs to mind other than the daily grind of going to work. Do better in school and you can increase your prospects of having a job that you actually enjoy.
#25 You can do pretty much anything you want, which is great, but you have to deal with the consequences, which isn’t great.
You can stay in bed all day and not work, but you will probably be broke. You can have a big party with your friends, but you have to pay for all the stuff and you have to clean up afterwards.
Basically, you have huge possibilities and opportunities, but it is all down to you.
Shanilou Perera
Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.
