25 Deeply Disturbing Secrets People Discovered About A Significant Other
Though we like to believe that everyone has good intentions and behaves ethically, the truth is that some people are simply putting on an act. We may trust our instincts to spot any false front, but many of these individuals are skilled at hiding their darker sides.
People in relationships who suddenly discovered a disturbing aspect of their significant other have recently shared the details of their experiences under a Reddit thread. We’ve rounded up a few eye-opening accounts of moments when someone’s perception of their relationship was forever changed by what they learned.
#1
My ex and I connected over very severe and alarmingly similar childhood trauma experiences. almost a year into our relationship, he revealed (extremely casually, like it was no big deal) that he’d made it up. He’d heard about my past from a former mutual friend, and felt it’d be easier to get to know if we had this in common. He genuinely didn’t see an issue with doing this.
He then proceeded to ask, “since it bothered me”, if I wanted to know everything else he’d made up, too.
turned out, about 75% of what I knew about him was fake. weird funny stories and experiences, childhood memories, things that had allegedly happened to him at work – he was just making things up. When I asked him why, he reiterated that he didn’t see it as a big deal, and then explained he felt I “needed to be humbled a bit” because “my life wasn’t that interesting”, so he’d made up things to “match” my stories/experiences.
#2
When he orders wings he eats the whole thing….bones and all. The plate is sent back empty. I think the first time he did it to get a reaction out of me but it’s been 4 years and he’s still crunching away. .
#3
I found out a few days ago that my wife has been texting inappropriately with her boss, kissy emojis, going out for drinks and sushi, calling it date night. Still trying to understand the full scope of it and how to proceed.
#4
He put a nanny cam in our bedroom so he could spy on my therapy sessions during covid. He made a big show out of putting on headphones in the other room because he knew he could just listen in later.
#5
They bite their fork when they eat. My soul leaves my body every time.
#6
He had a years-long affair with his stepmother.
#7
That she is still in love with her ex girlfriend and has been having an affair with her since before we even got married. But didn’t tell me that it was her ex girlfriend for real until this year and everybody on her side played along with it as they were only “best friends” which in turn had this girl pretending to be MY friend and my “wife” allowed it for 5 years.
Don’t worry I’m leaving lol.
#8
My ex wife spent the last decade of our marriage accusing me of having multiple affairs and/or being gay. I’ve since found out that during that decade she had 2 boyfriends and a girlfriend (not at the same time) so turns out it was all projection.
#9
He handled the finances. He died. I found $36,000 in gambling debt.
#10
He had such a history of using his mother and his sister, while also regarding them with scathing contempt. Both of them were flawed and selfish, but loved him deeply and unconditionally.
When he casually remarked that his forty-year-old sister (who, incidentally, was gorgeous then and still is) was a “fat old woman covered in tattoos, and she needs to start being realistic about how she wants to be treated by a man,” that was when I knew our days together were numbered and that I would never be able to un-see what that said about his regard for women.
#11
Doesn’t like nature. At all. It took me a while to accept this one. I had assumed that intentionally being in nature would be a source of spirituality, awe, and peace for everyone. My partner is not one of those people and only experiences extended time in nature as an annoying and inconvenient experience. But they find sources of awe and wonder and spirituality from other things such as art, music, literature, etc. We’re all just different.
#12
The most disturbing thing I found about a partner once was how they handled conflict, they’d go completely silent for days instead of talking things out. It wasn’t dramatic or explosive, just unsettling.
#13
She hung a Live Laugh Love thing on the wall.
I don’t understand how someone who is otherwise 100% awesome does that. Disturbing for sure.
#14
Nothing truly scary, just their obsession with organizing the fridge by color. It’s disturbing… but also kind of impressive.
#15
He keeps all his socks in a single giant drawer with zero pairs matched. just a chaotic ocean of fabric. disturbing? a little. fascinating? also yes.
#16
He didn’t like cats .
#17
His relationship with his mom. First when we moved in, big drama that she doesn’t get enough attention. Then constant messages good morning and good night. Then visits every week for coffee, tea, goes to her for lunch etc. I’m living with a man and i’m loosing respect for him. I see him as a mamas boy now and having hard time imagining our future together, and it’s breaking my heart.
I fell in love hard, for the first time in my life. And i’m broken that i’m starting to see him differently.
#18
She likes feet gloves or whatever they’re called. Just seeing her wear them, wiggling her gloved toes, gives me anxiety.
#19
He told me stories about the two affairs he had (that his wife found out about). He was quite the storyteller and this was many, many years after the affairs and in fact he had been widowed for six years. As entertaining as these stories were, they didn’t make me think more highly of him for sure.
#20
When she eats Kit Kats , she doesn’t break off pieces, she just eats the entire thing like it’s one bar.
#21
My ex wife poisoned me for about 4 months.
#22
He squeezes the toothpaste from the middle.
#23
My ex told me he was the victim of a lot of terrible trauma. It was how I explained away a lot of his bad behavior to myself.
He made up a lot of it! If not all of it. I can’t know for sure if it’s all made up, but the fact that at least a good chunk of it was made up doesn’t fill me with hope.
I think he was very afraid of rejection and would twist the truth in horrible ways trying to make it impossible for me to leave. It makes me sad to think about, honestly. Must be harrowing to live in his brain. But good god am I relieved not to be around him anymore .
#24
My fiance doesn’t use bookmarks, he just memorizes what page number he stopped on. .
#25
She says “excape.” We’ve got two kids so I’ll stay.
Shanilou Perera
Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.
“Alaska Isn’t Next To Hawaii?”: 25 Moments People Realized They Were Dating Someone Kinda Stupid
Being in a relationship has its entertaining moments, and partnered-up folks have been gathering to relate their experiences dealing with an SO that seems to be the living embodiment of a dad-joke.
As much as we would love to claim that these stories sound made up or AI-written, it appears that, from the 8 billion people in the world, there are moments where even the smartest whip displays an acute sense of stupidity that would be shocking if not for the incredible entertainment value they provide. Scroll below to check out a few examples of the funniest moments when these Redditors found out that their better half may not be quite all there in the intelligence department, but decided to love them for it, regardless.
#1
Never took a shower, always a bath. I’d ask why and “she just hates showers” Finally our grown children pressured her into an answer. “I just hate that first cold blast of water when it starts” Kids and I look at each other for a while, I finally say “I hate it too, that’s why I am usually OUTSIDE the shower when it happens” Long awkward silence. She has been showering ever since..
#2
Cooked me a cup of noodles with no water.
#3
When he straight up thought baby ducks were called quacklings. But to be honest, I actually prefer his version.
#4
Oh god. My SO has his PHD and is, on paper, super smart. However, when we had a rare sunny day (I’m in Scotland) he got one of those disposable BBQs that are basically just a tray with the charcoal in it. He set it up on a wooden chair because apparently “it won’t burn this”. Cue one very charcoal chair.
Bonus story: he decided he didn’t need to shut the electricity off to change a socket. Looked at me like I was an idiot for suggesting this and then proceeded to get an electric shock almost immediately.
Edit: sooo many people assume his PhD is in the arts. It’s not – he has a masters in Engineering and a PhD in Neuroscience.
#5
#6
I bought him a new watch and it was water resistant.
I told him I wanted to see him wearing it at the pool when we go do laps. He did two laps, got out, took off his watch and came back to the pool.
I asked him why he took it off. I thought maybe it was uncomfortable.
He told me it was water resistant “up to 100 meters” so he took it off after two 50 meter laps.
#7
My wife spent two hours installing a wireless printer because she didn’t plug it in. “But it’s wireless!”
She also cashed a check and when they asked if she wanted big or small bills she said regular size.
Both stories are absolutely true, and I’m so goddamned happy I married a living dad joke. (She’s definitely no idiot though)
#8
He forgets the names of things, and so will often make up a new name in the middle of a sentence without breaking stride. My personal favorite was when he forgot what a sandwich was called, so he asked me to make him a “meat bread”. Throughout the years I’ve become fluent in husband, but at first it would take me awhile to figure out what he was talking about.
He also does this thing where if he forgets someone’s name, he renames them Terry in his mind. He called our neighbor Terry for over a year, to the man’s face, until one day neighbor’s wife finally corrected him and told him that neighbor’s name was Neil.
My husband is an absolute idiot, but he’s my idiot and I love the hell out of him!
#9
We were putting away the groceries when I see her take a new jar of salsa, open it, and put it in the fridge. I asked her why she did that and she said:
“It says right on the jar to refrigerate after opening.”
I swear, she’s smart as a whip most of the time.
#10
She was at the store and I remembered I needed some whole chickens for the weekend, so I call her up and ask her to grab a few. Over the phone she says “the big kind or the little kind?” “I dunno, the largest you can find, it doesn’t really matter”. She shows up at the house with two 25 pound turkeys. Her entire life she believed turkeys were just larger chickens.
#11
When she answered the door in a s**y negligee…when I was bringing my parents over for dinner. She then swore, ran off, came back and apologised to my parents for swearing then ran off again.
#12
When she told me, quite seriously, that wind is made by trees.
You know, because they sway around which pushes the air around and thus makes wind.
She was not kidding.
#13
When he gorilla glued his bathroom door shut to see if he could break it down. He couldn’t.
#14
“WHAT DO YOU MEAN ALASKA ISN’T NEXT TO HAWAII ” Followed by, ALASKA is connected to Canada??
#15
Very early into our relationship she said something to the effect of, “I miss living in the mountains. When I lived in North Carolina, we had this beautiful mountain range… I think they called it the Rocky Mountains? Anyway… I wish we could go back sometime.”
We live in the Appalachian Mountains… Just a little north of where she grew up… It’s quite literally the same mountain range she saw as a kid…
#16
When I asked him to grab the “crushed red pepper” for my pizza, and he got offended. He asked me why i didn’t just say “the red flakes”, and that I was just trying to sound smarter than him.
#17
My boyfriend insisted that cooking certain things in the microwave was a hassle since you had to “stop them early” because the microwave only cooked in 30-second increments. I’m not sure what he thought all the numbers were for, but his life changed that day.
#18
My husband told me that he never slept in hotel sheets because they “never washed them”. So instead, he would wrap himself up in the comforter and sleep in that. The big fluffy comforter…
#19
When she insisted that Kim Jong Un was the leader of North Carolina.
#20
I’ll speak for my wife.
Up until about 2 years ago (I’m 30) I honestly believed goats were the male version of sheep.
I still don’t live that down.
#21
My crazy ex girlfriend told me a story once about her very special car. See, she thought buying gas was for other people and that her car didn’t need it. Evidently she didn’t realize this wasn’t the case till one day, she had run out of gas on the side of the road. Her ex boyfriend had been filling and keeping her tank full, so she just assumed her car ran off the battery.
This was nearly 15 years ago, where the notion of an electric car was futurology.
#22
When the ex wife accused me of making up the word hypocritical after telling her that her actions were just that. “You think because you’re smart you can make up words to call me and I won’t notice?” One of those moments where you open your eyes really wide and take a moment to process what you’re hearing.
#23
I’ve posted this before, but it’s my favorite story.
In the middle of a conversation that was referencing Washington DC, he angrily stated that what I was saying was impossible, because people don’t live in Washington DC.
I stopped, wait what?
“No one lives in Washington DC, they aren’t allowed.”
Are you serious?
“Yeah, only the President and the secret service live there, in the White House.”
He was 26.
#24
We sat on the porch of her rented house during university, smoking. It was nighttime, the stars were out. I saw Venus, asked her why she thought that star was extra bright (hoping to drop my planetary knowledge.) She said maybe it’s closer to us than the moon. I said “What does that mean?” “Like it’s between us and the moon.” She then explained that she thought the stars float around and change their positions, and that they were small. I ran into her house, told all her housemates, and we informed her about stars. She’s a PhD scientist.
Edit: Biology. Cigarettes. As for it being rude of me to run in and tell her roommates, it was. But she didn’t beleive me, thought I was messing with her. Told her the sun is a star and she laughed and was like ‘now I KNOW you’re kidding..” Went inside to confirm this with her roommates (also good friends of mine) and we all had a good laugh. I’m no genius, can’t point out countries on a map. We all have our faults, I just thought this one was particularly funny especially given that she is a brilliant scientist now (this was in 2nd year).
#25
He told me there was a giant tsunami rolling in. We live in Arizona.
Edit: This story is about an ex. He was dead serious when he said tsunami. I googled the definition of tsunami and told him what it was and he proceeded to call me an arrogant b***h.
Shanilou Perera
Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.
