20 Things Men Do That Makes Women Run In The Opposite Direction

Many men seem to go out of their way to try and impress a woman with all the wrong moves. From boasting about their gaming skills to their gym activities or their vast shoe collection to waxing lyrical about being a workaholic the truth is while all that is well and good its just not working the way its expected to. Its a message that bears repeating though because since the 90s when Shania Twain sang, that don’t impress me much, this has been a pending problem.

Apparently, many women feel the same as discovered by the opinions shared on a particular reddit thread dedicated to discussing the issue. So, let’s dive right in and find out what the online community had to say when asked, as women’s wants and needs have evolved over time what’s one thing that a man does, with the intention of impressing you, that puts you right off?

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#1

Driving like a lunatic while you’re in the car, Yeah you are so hot when you could potentially kill us both…Not!!

#2

The d**k pic. They expect us to be impressed, actually it just makes us run away and block.

#3

Massive compliments although you barely know each other, without any actions what so ever. Talk is cheap. I’m not sold.

#4

Working all the time or staying up all night for projects. I like sleep and balance

#5

The size of their p***s, the size of their bank account, the size of their house … the size of basically friggin’ anything.

#6

Calling themselves a feminist or a “good guy.” Texting that they just got back from the gym.

#7

Gym selfies.

Any kind of macho posturing. I like secure men. Not ones who have to make a point of how “alpha” they are.

#8

Big muscles. I think other men are often attracted to them though.

#9

Bragging about how many followers they have on Instagram or how their friends are Instagram famous.

#10

That they read a book or watched a movie written/directed by a woman – and liked it! – so now they are an expert on women’s issues. Substitute in any marginalized group and it’s just as cringey.

#11

If they want to explain my feelings to me, when I haven’t asked for it, then it’s over lol

#12

Being an “expert” on anything and everything, while simultaneously never admitting they don’t know something.

Just admit when you don’t know something! I won’t think less of you! Quite the contrary.

#13

Talking about their ‘very sophisticated’ wine/liquor/beer/food standards, or any monologue that paints them as the arbiter of good taste or worthwhile interests/hobbies. Also, treating other people’s otherwise wholesome interests as stupid or basic or something.

#14

Any kind of uninvited intimate contact… like that time at the fitness park, I was throwing myself at the climbing wall on my 7th circuit, and out of nowhere, I felt hands on my a*s helping me over the wall and he actually had the balls to walk around the wall to offer to train me

#15

Trying to talk to you about something you’re knowledgeable in and they are not but they spew this surface level b******t as if it should be impressive. They’re explaining to you/mansplaining your area of expertise. They don’t ask you more because they want to know more, they often quiz you ” wow, you actually know something” or the compliments are backhanded or patronizing (like that’s impressive for A GIRL)

Completely different than trying to relate/convey your mutual like of a subject. You don’t have to be on the same level to talk about a subject, but it comes with a tone that respects your thoughts also and isn’t abkut showmanship.

#16

Their car, fancy clothes, trying to show off their “knowledge” and “intellect” by mansplaining things to me and giving unsolicited advice, being too “generous” or as I’d like to call it “flippant with money”… basically anything showboaty. I do not want to eat at a tapas restaurant which will cost us $70 each for potatoes and sardines and cocktails PRE-COVID. Like dude we work in the same industry I know approx how much you earn. Leasing that $55k car just tells me that you 1) live with your parents and 2) are not saving as much money as I am with those spending habits.

Clearly I had a guy in mind lol.

#17

Please drop the “alpha male” shtick. It’s exhausting.

#18

Doing something dangerous or reckless. You’re an adult! Please do not drive like a getaway driver or an F1 racer! I don’t want to die on the highway because you need to impress me with your driving skills! I’m not impressed – I’m terrified, angry, and (assuming I survive this) taking a Lyft home.

This goes for whatever other dumb s**t guys do that could result in loss of life or limb or catastrophic property damage.

#19

Owning a surplus of weapons

#20

Talking about fights he had gotten in. I once went on a date with a guy who brought up fights he had gotten in in the past at least 5 separate times, I felt like I was on a date with a high schooler but he was mid-20s.

Shanilou Perera

Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.