20 Men Share The Red Flags They See In Other Men

You’ve just met the guys for a night out and there’s a new fella that one of your mates has brought. As you attempt to have a fun time and maybe meet some girls perhaps, the new guy starts going on about how women don’t like “good guys” like him. Do you believe him or take it as a sign of someone who may not be quite self-aware?

One Reddit discussion aimed to break down the individual scenarios where men can spot the red flags of other men. The responses sparked an intense online discussion about the signs men use to spot toxic masculinity. As usual, the folks of r/AskReddit did not disappoint in their answers, which are quite relevant to today’s society.

#1 “Women don’t like good guys like me”: Good guys don’t have to self assure themselves that they are good guys.

#2

Being a modern day Republican in the US. If he votes in favor of diminishing human rights, how do you think your relationship will go? Does he truly respect women if he is Ok with the removal of bodily autonomy? Will he respect your future kids if they are homosexual or transgender? I get that people change, but I would never set a girlfriend of mine up with someone I know to be republican.

#3 If you hear a little voice inside you that says “I can change this man”, he is not the man for you.

#4 Believe me, I’m a nice guy.

#5 Going out with younger women with a large age gap. It suggests to me that they like control and manipulation and compliance.

#6 Using terms like Alpha, Beta and Sigma unironically.

#7 I really dislike men who start lusting and talking about a woman’s a*s, breasts, etc. to me, trying to get me to agree. (And they’d assume that I would, since I’m a guy as well.)

Some people just can’t keep those thoughts to themselves.

Edit: I really appreciate how I am not alone on this. Sometimes it feels like I am, since those perverts are often the loudest.

#8

Men who can joke about others but can’t take it. (Can be applied to women too)

#9 Being unable to control their temper.

#10 Random guys I meet through work showing me nudes a girl has sent them. Like seriously, those aren’t meant to be shared.

#11

I look at how a man treats ‘unattractive’ women and other men, especially in places like restaurants.

It’s all well and good if he’s polite and nice towards a waitress who’s attractive but try pay closer attention to how he treats those he doesn’t see in that same way and see if you can spot a stark difference!

#12 Thinking their entitled to a GF just because they’re a male

#13 Talking about how many women they’ve shagged without being asked.

Describing a woman like a piece of meat rather than just saying “she’s nice/hot” i.e “look at the tits on that” or “love to tap that a*s”

Always wanting to get shitfaced when out rather than just have a few drinks.

Getting into fights.

#14

Constantly st talking their wife or girlfriend. Always saying how horrible they are and such a bh. Then I finally meet them at a get together or something and they are always nice. The guy will act completely different around her also, “yes dear” type of st. Then back at work the next day st talking her. Grow the f*k up

#15 Bartender here…

– They don’t respond well to the word “no” – They argue for no other reason than to maintain their ego – They use staring as a flirting technique – They talk over you in conversation – They get wildly uncomfortable when their partner is casually talking to somebody else in a public place – They order Fireball, Hennessy, Patron, or a Long Island – “What’s the strongest you got bro?” – Flashing money

#16 Routinely acting like a pouty manbaby.

We all have bad days, but I’d steer clear of the guys who very frequently have sour tempers and are very quick to anger. That’s the type of guy who will hit you, punch holes in the wall, drink and drive after every fight, etc

#17

By remarkable coincidence, all their exes were ‘crazy.’

#18

Never apologizing

#19 Consistent lack of personal hygiene

#20 Suddenly flying off the handle at a minor inconvenience. It’s one thing to stub your toe at the end of a bad day and give the table a whack. It’s another if every moment of stress or misfortune triggers rage.

Shanilou Perera

Shanilou has always loved reading and learning about the world we live in. While she enjoys fictional books and stories just as much, since childhood she was especially fascinated by encyclopaedias and strangely enough, self-help books. As a kid, she spent most of her time consuming as much knowledge as she could get her hands on and could always be found at the library. Now, she still enjoys finding out about all the amazing things that surround us in our day-to-day lives and is blessed to be able to write about them to share with the whole world as a profession.